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SOMEDAY, MAYBE THERE WILL EXIST A WELL-INFORMED, WELL-CONSIDERED, AND YET FERVENT PUBLIC CONVICTION THAT THE MOST DEADLY OF ALL POSSIBLE SINS IS THE MUTILATION OF A CHILD’S SPIRIT. ERIK ERIKSON |
Some
time ago, a friend of mine punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll
of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight, and he became infuriated when the child
tried to decorate a box to put under the tree. Nevertheless, the little girl
brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, "This is for you,
Daddy." He was embarrassed by his earlier overreaction, but his anger
flared again when he found that the box was empty. He
yelled at her, "Don’t you know that when you give someone a present,
there’s supposed to be something inside of it?" The little girl looked up
at him with tears in her eyes and said, "Oh, Daddy, it’s not empty. I
blew kisses into the box. All for you, Daddy." The
father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged her
forgiveness. My
friend told me that he kept that gold box by his bed for years. Whenever he was
discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the
child who had put it there. In
a very real sense, each of us has been given a gold container filled with
unconditional love and kisses. there is no more precious possession anyone could
hold. The longer I live, the more I
realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than
facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than
circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or
say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will
make or break a company…a church…a home. The remarkable thing is we have a
choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot
change our past…we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain
way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the
one string we have, and that is our attitude…I am convinced that life is 10%
what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you…we are
in charge of our ATTITUDES. -
Charles Swindoll It’s the truth I seek so that I may let it
go To no longer hold on to a mystery Only the truth shall set me free Free from my own boundaries My own judgments My own self surfacing in the darkness of my
life Winter gone And the sun shining brightly now for longer
hours Presses me forward to seek even more light The light that shines from within me The light that empowers And then balances out my own darkness For without the darkness What would light be? Only a constant with no balance No source of reference And I wonder if that is ultimately what we
seek A place of peace that just is still Without the teetering A calm A golden arrow Finds its way to my heart And I speak my truth from deep within me Even I do not understand some of it My hope is that one day I will I sit with my brothers and sisters And reminisce of other times of life Even then the truth remained a mystery to the
seekers And yet pursuit of it continues Where will it lead us? Perhaps it is a circle traveled many lifetimes And still the whole truth has not been
revealed Or at least not recognized by the travelers.
-- Debra Higgason Let me do it – I’m not afraid No, hold my hand You need help and guidance You can’t do it alone Walking self. Please let me Okay, but let me show you how No! I want to do it myself Sorry, you must do it my way I give up. I’ll do it your way if that’s my only choice My voice is not heard – has no value I give up myself for you After all, I’m only two and I still need you for some things - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Walking self I’m 13 now and I know I can do it I don’t need your help No, you don’t know it all. My way is still best. Why can’t you just comply and do it my way? Because it’s time to walk alone I really feel a need to learn to do things on my own -- to do things my way.
Okay? No. Sorry. It’s not time yet You have more to learn and until you do you must do what I say When you are 18 you can do things your way But If I start then I won’t be prepared or understand the realities of life and I won’t have you to lean on then Yes, I’ll be there Call anytime and I’ll tell you what to do. - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -
18 finally came I couldn’t wait to get out and try my wings but I found they had been clipped so often I couldn’t fly I struggled – I crawled with tools I had been given that did not work One by one the tools were discarded and I have finally found tools that work for me And though I know it’s not how you would do it I’m finally walking self at 43!
-- Debra Higgason CERTIFICATE
OF THE RIGHT TO PLAY By
this certificate know ye that ____________________ is a
lifetime member in good standing in The
Society of Childlike Persons and
is hereby and forever entitled to walk in the rain, jump in mud puddles, collect
rainbows, smell flowers, blow bubbles, stop along the way, build sand castles,
watch the moon and stars come out, say hello to everyone, go barefoot, go on
adventures, sing in the shower, have a merry heart, read children’s books, act
silly, take bubble baths, get new sneakers, hold hands and hug and kiss, dance,
fly kites, laugh and cry for the health of it, wonder around, feel scared, feel
sad, feel mad, feel happy, give up worry and guild and shame, stay innocent, say
yes, say no, say the magic words, ask lots of questions, ride bicycles, draw and
paint, see things differently, fall down and get up again, talk with animals,
look at the sky, trust the universe, stay up late, climb trees, take napes, do
nothing, daydream, play with toys, play under the covers, have pillow fights,
learn new stuff, get excited about everything, be a clown, enjoy having a body,
listen to music, find out how things work, make up new rules, tell stories, save
the world, make friends with the other kids on the block, and do anything else
that brings more happiness, celebration, relaxation, communication, health,
love, joy, creativity, pleasure, abundance, grace, self-esteem, courage,
balance, spontaneity, passion, beauty, peace, and life energy to the above named
member and to other humans and beings on this planet. Further, the above named member is hereby
officially authorized to frequent amusement parks, beaches, meadows, mountain
tops, swimming pools, forests, playgrounds, picnic areas, summer camps, birthday
parties, circuses, cookie shops, ice cream parlors, theaters, aquariums, zoos,
museums, planetariums, toy stores, festivals, and other places where children of
all ages come to play, and is encouraged to always remember the motto of The
Society of Childlike Persons: IT’S
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